Before considering becoming a liberal, consider - most will lose at this

 

Before becoming a liberal, consider this

 

Since for the liberal relativist, reality is constantly being invented, being liberal means you must be in fighting mode all the time, ready to assert, and listen only in order to gain an upper advantage over the other

 

This has real effects upon interpersonal interactions. 

In sharp contrast, those who feel part of a chain of tradition, and who feel that truth is external, are markedly much more relaxed in their manner and much kinder inter-personally

 

Liberal thinking starts out seeming to be kind, and then ends up very much "tough on you".

Remember this well - only those near the purse strings can win at being liberal. 

Most will lose at this

 

Here are some examples

 

 - Free sex means people will share the pleasure of affection without waiting until marriage

 

What really happens - breakups are more devastating than anyone anticipated. But instead of saying, hey wait a minute, we meant more love and affection, not terrible heartbreaks

 

The answer - "you are too sensitive"

 

Most will lose at this

 

- Free sex means more affection and love -  sounds good, but what about both women and men who brag to others about their exploits, even adding in how the one they rejected is very hurt, and instead of sympathizing with the rejected one, feeling proud that the rejector had the upper hand. Should you respond, “hey I can see that cheating on a boyfriend or girlfriend would be hurtful”, the response - don’t be so sensitive.

 

So we went from more love to - "don’t be so sensitive."

 Most will lose at this

 

- The group that calls itself women of the  (western) wall in Jerusalem claim to be offering more “alternatives” to Jewish religious expression. But they also say that the Western Wall in Jerusalem has no holiness. Should you complain that their loud singing, screeching, blowing kisses at the men, waving their so called “prayer books” in the air at the men are interfering with the religious womens’ ability to pray - well tough on the religious women.

 

So we went to - "here are more alternatives" - to: provocateur activity and a cynical and cruel “tough on you” attitude. 

Most will lose at this

 

- Abortion rights were to deal with the rare times that an unplanned pregnancy occurs, and of course we must consider incest and rape. But then it became that abortion should be up to the point of birth, and when I pressed one friend about the humanity of the baby, she raised her voice and her face contorted: “tough on the baby! Tough on the baby!” she yelled

 

So we went from sympathy for the mistake to - tough on a full term baby minus five minutes. 

Most women, never-mind the baby for now,  will lose at this

 

There is no one who is two or more generations liberal

 

It was a social experiment

 

And most lost at it

You can build. Liberals activists do not want you to find this out.

Here is an example of provoking rather than building:

The so called "women of the wall" is a group that says it is for Jewish religious pluralism.

Sounds good.

But their loud screaming-like "praying", blowing kisses at the men, waving their so called "prayer books" in the air, amounts to bothering the Jewish women who pray traditionally at the Western Wall in Jerusalem

This group could easily gather at the Robinson's Arch area of the Western Wall. 

They have refused this offer because, in their own words, they want to "see and be seen", and they have stated that they wish to offend Haredi (ultra-orthodox) women in order to "liberate" them. 

They do not build. They confront. 

Actually, the only reason that the women's section is seen by this group as somehow the "main" section is because women who pray traditionally built that up over the years. 

But liberal activists pursue and confront, they do not build. 

Liberals of today tell you that you cannot build, that there are shadowy powers out there, grave and huge, that you must topple, and you cannot. 

That keeps you in fighting mode. 

This attitude of confrontation and provocation will "work" for you if you are directly connected to the purse strings of such activism, but if you are not getting a paycheck from this, this attitude will degrade your own ability to build in your own life.

 

The truth is that there is no "Establishment". 

You can build.  

Liberals activists do not want you to find this out.

 

Relativism and the effect I witnessed on women

 

Today’s liberal relativist woman holds herself with a certain bitterness. Sometimes her appearance is neglected, as it is a liberal thing to eschew female beauty, creating a cycle of self loathing that she cannot quite put her finger upon

 

Remember the “Free to be you and me” record with Marlo Thomas? Produced in the late 1960’s, it was an effort to influence children to be individualists. The story about “Atalanta” ends with her not wanting to marry the best man in the kingdom, but wanting to travel the world. The story in which a girl is overly concerned with keeping her fine clothes clean ends with her getting eaten by a tiger

 

The message - eschew marriage, hold girls and women who care for their appearance in contempt and be happy if they die a horrible death

 

Another source of bitterness for the liberal stems from the conviction that reality is malleable and constantly re-formed by society and by off-handed comments at social gatherings

 

Now they cannot quite put this into words - you have to step out of the box in order to understand this dynamic that permeates liberal culture, and it is this

 

Reality is created by people’s attitudes

 

Off-handed comments at social gatherings are what forms society

 

The more off-handed and casual such comments are, the more they appear to be just part of the woodwork, the background noise, the basic assumptions that you cannot separate yourself from to get a perspective on

 

I love the following line from the book, “A Time to Rend a Time to Sew”, by Rachel Pomerantz; a young woman who found religion confronted her still-relativist sister

 

I wonder at you Lynn! For leaving the basic assumptions on which you live your life un-examined, to be decided by the majority vote of those around you

 

Liberal relativists are not allowed to think. They are bitter because the way they are living contradicts basic human needs, and because those relativists who “made it” as relativists are few and far between. Those who have made it are elitists comparable to the top of a multi level marketing pyramid. Once the market gets saturated with relativist rebels, well there is no more room for any more

 

And you realize if you stay on this path, you likely to succeed only if you are well-paid activist, lawyer, journalist, politician, or just another leftist professor. You need to be well compensated to compensate for the likelihood of your lifetime loneliness

 

Oh a few charmers have it all - there are those rebellious feminists while at the same time talented enough to be married to a man who is loyal to her. But look closely - in these rare occasions, she is probably particularly charming and, whether intentionally or not, working with a split personality - nurturing to her husband in the privacy of her home, shaking her fists in the air when outside at some protest

 

Women who cannot maintain this split lifestyle, this double life, may find themselves lonely indeed

 

Some basic human needs are:i

 

Loyalty in a long term and exclusive committed intimate relationship

 

Sexual intimacy exclusive to a committed relationship

 

Children

 

Abortion only in cases in which the woman’s life is threatened, otherwise, mother and child share a natural bond even if the pregnancy was unplanned. This bond is sometimes felt before the woman knows she is expecting

 

Feminine beauty. Now some women are naturally earthy types and thrive in turtle necks and jeans and make-up free, that is fine, my point is that women who are pressured to eschew what makes them fell beautiful in their own way can develop a feeling of self loathing

 

Liberal relativists eschew basic human needs, resulting in a bitter population that will likely be prodded into activism rather than into self-evaluation

 

I have seen this bitterness among members of the Jewish community who are attempting to create “alternative” Jewish movements. You see a bitterness about them. I am telling you on the cover of a reform Jewish magazine, I was astonished at the bitter and defiant facial expressions on the face of two women and one man who were apparently leading prayer services. In such a situation, they could not smile?i

 

No they could not, because the market gets saturated fast, because each of them were actually competing with each other, and decidedly not building community. Each needed to carve out his or her niche and desperately try to influence others in order to carve out their place - otherwise, face being forgotten

 

They are not links in the chain of tradition, beloved by children and grandchildren. They are individualists who want to make a name for themselves

 

I attended two country clubs. To get into a country club and use their pool and tennis courts, you need to either

 Be a member. Being a member is expensive. So, you need to

A - have been born financially well off, or

 

B - have worked to be financially well off, or

 

2 - Have a guest pass, that is, enter the club as a friend of a well-off member

 

So anyone can visit a country club, it is an elitism which anyone can potentially take part it

 

But the elitism of relativism is not. The market gets saturated quickly, leaving people who did not make it there, very bitter indeed