Be there for the lost liberal

 We were the privileged and enlightened, and we were going to wage social revolutions - upon others, and not upon us.

Kids in Boston should be bussed, but that would be unthinkable for us Brookline kids. If asked why, we would not even be able to answer. We were blocked in a sense, and this came to a head a times, but as we had no intellectual tools to comprehend how our own paradigms were betraying us, we ended up in a sort of fog intellectually.

The solution - do not chide! Be there for the lost liberal. Here are some examples:

Anna's roommate, freshman year at Harvard, hit her, swore at her, and locked her out of their room. Anna complained to the administration, and said she needed to change rooms. The roommate's parents countered that if such a move is made, they will claim racism against black people.

The Harvard administration did nothing. Anna's grades declined, she took the second semester off.

The response in my circle - it was as if lightning had struck, like some incomprehensible event happened and Anna would take a semester off for some strange reason that no one could put their finger on.

Nobody said, "no! This is abuse! Call us racist if you want, we will stand for the truth!"

Nope, everyone was overwhelmed, they fogged out intellectually, with no one realizing that the accusation of racism can at times be one hundred percent false.

Julie was date-raped. Then she blamed "rape culture", but she had voluntarily engaged in sex play with a college student that she had only met that day. He went too far, and she was awake all night staring at the ceiling until the next morning she only realized what had happened. But she could not conclude, "maybe it is better not to engage in sex play with strangers in the first place."

Nope, there was something huge and overwhelming to blame - rape culture.

Liberals fog out when they have a chance to take a stand or take responsibility.

They disappear intellectually. 

The solution - do not chide them, be there for them! They cannot get a perspective on the paradigm they were brainwashed with. Help them out of it, liberal by liberal, just say, "I will help you find a lawyer who will advocate for your daughter", or, "Julie, from now on, no late night parties, no affection until commitment."

It works, I have done it! Because of my encouragement: one woman took a break from promiscuous sex for one semester, two women confronted their boyfriends and said, "time to marry or break up", one woman promised she would not bring her boyfriend home to sleep over for her teenage daughter's sake.

Do not chide, just be there, it really works.

Here is something more people should do: "move in with me during your pregnancy and for a couple of months afterwards, then you can decide if you would like to give up for adoption or keep the baby."

Do not chide, instead, be there for them, because they are lost in an intellectual web and cannot escape all that easily.