Senator Hirono from Hawaii chided Amy Coney Barret for using the term “sexual preference” in a legal brief. The Senator said it is an outdated term, thus admitting that it was once correct to say "sexual preference". This senator declared that sexuality is inherent and unchangeable, and if you think otherwise, you may question the right to gay marriage.
That is politics, not sociology, not psychology, not even awareness of the various nuances of sexuality.
There are many who were once in a long term gay relationship, then switched to a straight relationship; there are those who were in a long term straight relationship, then came out as gay.
Gay marriage is legal because of gender equality under the law. Two men who wish to marry do not have to prove to anyone that they were always gay. There is no sexuality litmus test.
Two people may marry for any reason they wish: some marry for love, some for economic improvement, some for social status, some to help another get citizenship in the host country. They need not prove to anyone the reasons behind a marriage, nor do they need to justify their sexuality.
Senator Hirono is pushing the leftist idea that your thoughts must fit the law: if the law allows for gay marriage, you must believe that sexuality is absolute, because if you do not, you may question this law.
Actually that is nonsense. You can think “fine with me if two previously straight men marry each other”, or even “scripture forbids this so I cannot bake a cake for a gay wedding nor can I attend one, but, if a gay couple need housing, jobs, etc I will help them out, they are created in God’s image.” You will not become an anti-gay activist if you do not agree with ever-changing semantics and party-lines.
In fact, a daughter of a gay woman who loved her mom and her mom's partner told me that homosexuality is natural because anyone can be gay. A son of a gay woman who loved his mom likewise told me, "homosexuality is like loving people." He meant, it is a form of open mindedness.
People who loved gays were saying this.
Gays were saying this.
Ms. Magazine, letters to the editor, about 1990, one said, " we cannot condemn gays because they are born this way." Next issue, a heated response to this claim: "that letter was offensive and condescending. For many of us in the lesbian community this is a lifestyle choice."
Another letter I read in Middlebury College alumni magazine: " in response to last week's letter by the man who says he is a former homosexual and "recovered", I too am a former homosexual but have no regrets about my past, I had many meaningful encounters. I have now been happily married to a wonderful woman for fifteen years; I fell in love with someone who just happens to be a woman."
College days - Helen was a bright and warm young woman. She had some bad sexual experiences with men. One of the experiences was a one night stand with a man. The morning after, she expressed interest in a long term relationship. He countered, "sorry, but I am gay."
"What?" She was incredulous, "but what about last night?"
His response - "oh, that, well, you are just very titillating."
Helen was hurt yet again.
Then she told me, "I have started hanging out with some lesbians, I really like them." Then she told me that she had sex with a lesbian. "It was a really great experience, a validation of womanhood, but as I got to get to know the militant side of the gay community, I realized they were too militant for me, and I am pretty militant."
A few years later, she married a man.
Jake and Janet spoke about having a sexual relationship. Janet was experienced, Jake was not. "You can't believe how great it is, I love it, sex, wow", he said after his first experiences with her. Eric was dating a woman, he told me that he may like to marry her. Rochelle told us that she was preparing herself to tell her parents
that she is a lesbian, she cried as she imagined the tension to come.
Fast forward - I was sad to read that Rochelle had passed away at the age of forty, leaving behind
her male husband, David. I received a postcard from a friend from the tenth college reunion - "Jake and Eric are out of the closet! Would you have ever guessed?" I thought, wow, Jake told us that he loved having sex with Janet. Helen liked lesbian sex, but later married a man. After graduation, Patty was living with a woman in a lesbian relationship, my college roommate updated me that Patty married a man after that. Anna is a talented social worker, she dated Steve just after college, and a few years later, she was in a relationship with a woman. Names have been changed.
Writer Oscar Wilde loved his wife Constance. He met his end via his sexual relationship with a young man, Wilde suing this man's father for libel in a civil court, not a criminal court, yet Wilde ended up jailed and in hard labor, a complete miscarriage of justice. He had fathered two children. A man must have sex with a woman in order to father children. From jail, he wrote, "when I think about Constance my heart breaks."
So...straights can become gay, gays can become straight. That's life, growth, flexibility, insecurity, flux, change, mystery.
But the left wants us to think that sexuality is inherent, genetic even. My own observations led me to conclude otherwise.
Would Senator Hirono make a law prohibiting a man who had been in a long term gay relationship, who then divorced his husband, from later marrying a woman? Would the Senator declare, “sorry, you lived publicly as a homosexual, that is your inherent identity, you cannot marry a woman”?
In declaring the absoluteness of homosexuality, Sen Hirono has in fact ignored the nuances of the human experience, and imposed a concept that is decidedly not the universal experience of all homosexuals, setting in motion a political machine that is likely to rob us of our right to change and choose.
You should have studied the Holocaust enough to know that it is very dangerous to declare that all sorts of human nuances are "constitutional", which really means genetic! I should not need to remind you that the mentally ill, Gypsies, Jews, gays, etc were rounded up by the nazis, may their name be erased, and murdered due to their so called "genetic" attributes, which quickly became considered as defects!
You do not have to think that something is absolute and inviolate, or "constitutional" and thus genetic, because it is legal.
Senator Hirono is pushing thought control.
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